A Reason, A Season, Or A Lifetime

This has always been one of my favorites. Thank you, Jordan, for reminding me about it. Here it is!

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.  They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.  They may seem like a godsend, and they are.  They are there for the reason you need them to be.  Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.  Sometimes they die.  Sometimes they walk away.  Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.  What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled;  their work is done.  The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.  They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.  They may teach you something you have never done.  They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.  Believe it!  It is real!  But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.  Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);  and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.  It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Everyone needs these people in their lives. I don't really have much else to say on this subject. It's mostly just something I wanted to share. Have a wonderful week!

Saying Goodbye When You Know It's Gonna Break Your Heart

I have decided that breaking up with someone is so much harder when they have done nothing majorly wrong. They haven't cheated, they haven't hit you, you don't fight all the time. It is so so so much harder to say those words when you still adore them. There is always the "it's not you, it's me", which, believe it or not, actually can happen. Then there is the "you are an amazing guy, but just not the guy for me". That's where I am at with things. Knowing that we are going to stay friends helps, but there is still the fact that my heart is going to break when he gets in his truck and drives away that last time. Sometimes I wonder if we didn't give it enough time. Or if I'm going through one of my phases. But then I remember that it's not fair to him to not be completely committed to making it work. Maybe a few years down the road, we will reconnect and things will work. I just hope that he realizes what an amazing person he is and that it wasn't anything he did. I hope he also realizes how much it means that he understands and feels the same way.

The Art of Lying to Yourself

A friend and I have been talking this morning and an interesting subject came up. We want to know if you ever find yourself lying. Not just to other people, but to yourself. Whether it be about your feelings towards a man, or your true feelings towards a friend, I'm sure we have all been in that situation at one point or another. How many of you have settled with less than what you want because you are afraid to hurt yourself, or someone else. Life is too short to be unhappy, and sometimes you just have to close your eyes, take a deep breath, and jump. It may be rocky at the bottom, but you would be surprised at who just might be there to catch you.

Christmas and Such...

First of all, MERRY CHRISTMAS. Second of all, holy snow! Baker got 6 to 8 inches over the weekend. I feel like an eskimo.


The topic for today: The "I don't want you, but no one else can have you" syndrome. It seems that every person I know has at least one ex that has this particular issue. They don't want to be with you anymore, but heaven forbid if someone else wants you. I just don't understand it. Then, they can't understand why you get upset when they try and talk to you about it. Then you get called a b**** or some other nasty name. Last time it happened to me, I thanked them and told them that they were the one that made me that way. Anyway, comments on this subject?

The Etiquette of Christmas Gifts

Christmas is less than 2 weeks away and the dilemma of buying gifts is weighing on my mind heavily. I know that there are a few of my friends that have, or are going to be, getting me gifts. In my household, money is extremely tight and I will probably not be able to afford buying anyone gifts. What are your thoughts on what to do when a friend gets you a gift, but you are unable to afford getting them one in return?